This is actually a great question. I’m glad you pointed out you are not a submissive, as it makes answering easier. What you would see as “boring,” a submissive’s brain sees as “comforting,” “reliable,” “steady,” “predictable,” and “stable.” The submissive brain craves those things in their daily lives. When a submissive says “Good morning, Daddy/Sir/Master” and receives the same response back from their Dom every day; when they send “Arrived safe at X” and receive the same response at every check-in; when they say “Good night, Sir/Master/Daddy” and they get the same response (everything from tucks to “Sleep well”) …. these are the things that give the submissive’s life the same kind of predictability they get from knowing that the sun is going to rise every morning. They are comforted by the fact that, no matter what kind of random shit the day throws at them, those things are going to be there, they’re going to be predictable, and they’re going to be a part of their life every single day.
Submissive Followers, chime in here with your thoughts!
I agree. There’s a structure that is comfortable. And I enjoy knowing what the expectations are.
Fire isn’t boring.
Panic and chaos aren’t boring either.
A racing mind trying to figure out what the fuck will please Him, trying to guess what He wants me to do isn’t boring.Reminds me of the ancient Chinese curse:
May you live in interesting times ….Sure, it may get boring, maybe even inane. But so does brushing and flossing your teeth, or eating right, or going to work, etc…
But all are things you NEED.
If not boring is the standard of success, then Charlie Sheen is definitely “WINNING!!!“
So ya @instructor144, I’ll take boring please.
What you call sameness I call security. I HATE surprises and I love structure. I don’t like a wrench thrown in my structure, because I then panic and get really pissy. I like knowing that someone has everything thought out, and can catch variables of ‘what if x happens, what will she be told to do for this.’
But, different strokes for different folks I guess.
My husband and I switch roles almost seamlessly at this point. He enjoys calling me Mommy and the fact that I handle all finances and organization as seamlessly as one can in these times. I enjoy calling him Daddy for the emotional support and stability that comes with knowing he’ll always be there for me.
Dom/sub, marriage, partnership… it all requires a balance. Spontaneous date nights become more special because of routine. Presents become more special because of daily expected services.
I call it serene stability with bursts of unfiltered joy that happen in random little improvisations of the routine.
Nothing ever gets boring as long as you’re always thinking about it and present within those moments.